There is never any acceptable excuse that you can give for cheating. As adults there should be enough common courtesy and respect between people in a relationship for the communication to be both real enough and strong enough to voice the things that are making them unhappy. Choosing to cheat instead of working out whatever issues may or may not exist between you and the one you claim to love can only mean one of two things;
1). That the cheater simply does not respect their partner enough to do right by them.
2). The cheater is selfish, arrogant, egotistical, greedy and is convinced that their mate is naive enough for them to have their cake and eat it too.
Either way, "LOVE" itself is no longer a factor and the cheating party is officially not only disrespecting their partner and their relationship, but they are also destroying the value of the time, money and energy invested to build whatever had been established thus far.
This is why when it comes to cheating, you need to have an absolute zero tolerance attitude. Make sure that your potential mate truly knows and understands what your particular rules of engagement actually are. Case in point:
"If I can’t trust you, I will not be with you. - PERIOD! -
Did I make that clear from the very beginning? You betcha! Why? Because I know my worth. I don’t have time for games. I’m grown, you’re grown, let’s be grown together…do I need to check your phone? No. Do you need to check mine? Hell no. I will trust you until you give me reason not to.
With that being said, if you’re treating me with the respect, the love and the loyalty I deserve, you will get it back one hundred and ten percent. You got me? I’ve got you….I will lift you up, be your support, know that I am down for whatever. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have money in the bank, we will build together. It doesn’t matter what you drive, we will ride together. But if you cheat on me, betray my trust, lie, manipulate or play me, you will lose the best thing that you have ever had in your life, my love and my loyalty."
Secrets and lies will kill a relationship. When you tell one, everything else is suspect. I don’t believe that all men are cheater’s, only immature men with little to no self- control. I don’t believe a person can "make a mistake" and cheat. Cheating is a choice. Cheating is a person choosing to be weak and yeilding to the desires of their flesh over the purity of their hearts. Cheating is selfish and can only abide in a place that is void of true love. Because true love, by definition means caring for the other person more than you care about yourself. And if that is indeed the case, no temptation in the world would be strong enough to pursuade you to risk or harm or destroy the heart of the one you love. Cheating is premeditated 99.99% of the time. I don’t buy the falling in “uncontrollable lust where you just couldn’t help yourself” type of thing. then again, that's just my point of view. What's yours? - Jennifer Cannon