First you must determine what a player is. Personally, I think it’s all in their minds. If you call yourself a grown man with grown man desires, why you playing? I mean really? Am I supposed to take you seriously?
According to Webster’s Dictionary, a player is a person or thing that plays.
A person that is skilled in some game. An actor or performer. When a man seduces a woman or women with no intention of truly loving them, but manipulate them for his own agenda, whatever it may be, then set them aside once he uses them, he’s a player. He doesn’t care who gets hurt, as long as he gets what he wants. He manipulates women through their emotions. He see’s women as toys, not as women with feelings.
Some men tend to think it’s the cool thing to be. It may have been cute in your twenties but after you turn a certain age, you really need to let it go. A player is usually quite charming, dresses well and very slick talking. He gets off on the thrill of the chase. Once he conquers one, he gets bored and moves quickly to the next.
He has no concept of what it means to be in love. It’s all a game to him. He is selfish and self-centered. A player makes false promises and boast about who he’s been with. He will pretend to love you only to get what he wants.
A player will find themselves unsatisfied, wanting more, especially as they get older. After running around in the streets for years, breaking young girl’s hearts, he has gained a reputation of being a dog and no one wants to deal with him anymore.
Players have no concept of what it means to be loyal to anyone but themselves. They are happy until they get caught. They play’s mind games. He’s insecure and hides behind fakeness. A player is a master at manipulating. He takes no responsibility for his own actions. He blames you for all his issues.
When a player juggle more than two women at a time, he can’t remember what he said from one day to the next, so his primary goal is to hit it and quit it, no strings attached. If he’s cancelling dates at the last minute, you’re probably in rotation with another woman.
When he calls or texts late at night, we all know what that means, his desires need to be met and he’s not ashamed to say it. If you give him grief, he will tell you he loves you because he knows that will work. He has an answer for everything. Never apologize, only shifts the blame. His swagger comes with a sly grin. He’s always disappearing and acting shady. To a player, out of sight is out of mind. Unless you’re standing in front of him, he’s not thinking about you.
A player will not introduce you to his friends. If he’s juggling more than one woman at a time his friends might give away his game. Players are good at making you think you have their undivided attention, but if he is distracted by his phone the entire time he’s with you, more than likely it’s because he’s juggling.
Can a player change? Yes. Can he tell the truth? Yes. Can he be in a serious relationship? Yes. Once a player comes across a woman that flips the script on him and makes him want to do right, he can change. But he has to change for that woman. She can’t make him change. All the women in the world won’t change a man if he isn’t ready to be changed. He is what I call a reformed player. Let’s face it, as we get older, no one wants to be alone…. But that’s just my point of view.